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Friday, March 04, 2005

yang paling menyakitkan....

Luka yang paling menyakitkan dalam hidup bukanlah kematian, namunmenjadi orang yang diabaikan. Kehilangan orang yang sangat kita cintai, yangberubah menjadi seseorang yang tidak peduli denganmu sama sekali.

Ketika orang yang sangat kau sayangi mengadakan pesta .... dan tidakmengundangmu sama sekali. Ketika orang yang paling kau sayangi di dunia..... dengan sengaja tidak mengundangmu menghadiri perayaannya, sehinggamembuat orang berfikir kamu tidak peduli.

Luka yang paling menyakitkan dalam hidup bukanlah kematian, namunmenjadi orang yang dilupakan. Menjadi orang yang dilupakan setelah kita memberikan yang terbaik. Menjadi orang yang tidak mempunyai kawan, walau hanyasekedar untuk saling menyapa.

Ketika kau melihat orang yang ada dilubuk hatimu yang paling dalammenertawaimu didepan wajahmu. Ketika kau membutuhkan seseorang untuk memompa semangatmu, tapi kau menyadari bahwa hanya seseorang yang masih pedulidenganmu yaitu ........ kamu sendiri.

Hidup memang penuh penderitaan, tapi akankah ini membaik??? akankahsemua orang saling peduli, dan menyediakan waktu untuk mereka yang membutuhkan ?Setiap orang punya peranan untuk dimainkan di panggung yang besar yang kita sebut kehidupan.

Setiap orang punya kewajiban terhadap lingkungansekitarnya untuk mengatakan bahwa kita menyayangi mereka. Kau tidak akan mendapat hukuman jika kau tidak mempedulikan kawan-kawanmu . Kau hanya akan diabaikan......diupakan..... seperti seperti yang telah kau perbuat terhadap mereka !!

handling love

If you find yourself in love with someone who does not love you, begentle with yourself. There is nothing wrong with you. Love justdidn't choose to rest in the other person's heart.

If you find someone else in love with you and you don't love her/him,feel honored that love came and called at your door, but gently refusethe gift you cannot return. Do not take advantage, do not cause pain.

How you deal with love is how you deal with you, and all our hearts feelthe same pains and joys, even if our lives and ways are different.

If you fall in love with another, and she/he falls in love with you, and thenlove chooses to leave, do not try to reclaim it or to assess blame, Let itgo. There is a reason and there is a meaning. You will know in time.

Remember that you don't choose love. Love chooses you. All you canreally do is accept it for all its mystery when it comes into your life.Feel the way it fills you to overflowing, then reach out and give it away.

:: Give it back to the person who brought it alive in you.
:: Give it to others who deem it poor in spirit.
:: Give it to the world around you in anyway you can.

This is where many lovers go wrong. Having been so long without love,they understand love only as a need. They see their hearts as emptyplaces that will be filled by love, and they begin to look at love assomething that flows to them rather than from them.

The first blush of new love is filled to overflowing, but as their lovecools, they revert to seeing their love as need. They cease to be someonewho generates love and instead become someone who seeks love. Theyforget that the secret of love is that it is a gift, and that it can bemade to grow only by giving it away.

Remember this, and keep it to your heart. Love has its own time, its ownseasons, and its own reason f! or coming and going. You cannot bribe it orcoerce it, or reason it into saying. You can only embrace it when itarrives and give it away when it comes to you.

But if it chooses to leave from your heart or from the heart of yourlover, there is nothing you can do and there is nothing you should do.Love always has been and always will be a mystery.

Be glad that it came to live for a moment in your life.Don't deny love just only you don't want to be hurt...



You have all the creativity you need to accomplish what you want! But sometimes it seems difficult to release it. Maybe you've wracked your brain but no new ideas, no new approach is coming. How do you unblock the creativity within you? Here are 7 ideas to get you going:
1. Stop Thinking So HardCreativity is not a left-brain analytical process. It defies logic, it defies rationality. It does not respond to pushing yourself. Creativity flows, it can't be called up on a moment's notice. You can analyze the project forever but at some point, let go of all that left-brain thinking, even for a brief period of time.
2. Move To A Different SpotMove away from your desk to a relaxing spot. I like to sit in a comfy chair, with the sunlight streaming in, and just take time to reflect for a bit. When I want to write, these questions always help me:"What is inspiring to me?""What inspiration do I want to write about?"And while you're doing this, deep breathe, gently and easily. For more breathing techniques, see "Breathe 7" in my Free ebook "20 Little Ways to Stop and Smell the Roses" at:
3. Write Stream of ConsciousnessWrite 'stream of consciousness' without any analysis or judgment. This means writing whatever comes to mind, with no judgment, no editing, no censorship, no analysis. Just let every thought pour out on a piece of paper. For more on this technique, see "Write Stream of Consciousness" in my Free ebook "20 Little Ways To Stop and Smell the Roses" at: http://www.attractclients.com/20littleways.html
4. Do a Mind MapThis is a fun, creative technique that unleashes new ideas, connections, interrelationships. Doing a mind map is play and yet, you create a useful visual image that uses both right brain and left brain thinking. For a good article on how to do it, see:http://www.shared-visions.com/explore/literature/mindmap.htm
5. MeditateMeditate and deep breathe to release tension, let go of the old and let in the new. Deep breathing helps both the mind and body to release and relax. Take time out to be on another plane, out of your analytical mind. Right-brain processes emerge more easily when you're not analyzing.
6. Jump in and see where it goesYou can't always conceptualize the end of a project. Sometimes you just need to jump in, play with it. Let it evolve, work with it and see where it goes.When I used to throw pottery on a kick wheel, I loved the experience of seeing where it would go. Yes, I had an idea on whether I was making a pot, a plate, a vase or some other object but I never knew exactly what it would look like until I was finished. The clay forces you to mold it, moment by moment.
7. DisconnectRemove yourself from the project for a while. Play with your kids' toys, take a meditation walk, work in another mode. Do something that will refresh and rejuvenate you. Your mind and spirit are asking for this.For more ways to disconnect see "Take 5 Vacations A Day" in "20 Little Ways to Stop and Smell the Roses" at:http://www.attractclients.com/20littleways.html